We’ve all been there before: date after date, with nothing too promising on the horizon.
At some point, it definitely gets old being on your own. At least for most people.
Are you striking out every time you go out? If so, it might be time to reassess your approach to the dating game.
The good news is that by keeping a couple of pointers in mind, you’re almost certain to improve your success. Need some help? Consider these four tips:
Dress to impress. Sure, if you’re planning to meet someone at the bar, you don’t have to wear your Sunday best. But you don’t want to look like a slob, either.
First impressions do matter, so whether you like it or not, you’ll have to put some effort into what you wear the first time you meet.
Think about it: The dude wearing the Phish t-shirt and cargo pants, at least on a superficial level, doesn’t seem like a guy that’s worth getting to know. At the same time, ladies, you should mask your preferences for jam bands and baggy pants, too.
Don’t try too hard. Dating is a cat and mouse game. Whether you like it or not, you’re going to have to understand common protocols to be successful in the dating world. You don’t have to necessarily play games, but you have to be at least somewhat reticent in your approach.
Don’t be someone you’re not, don’t try too hard and don’t be overbearing. Any of those approaches will almost certainly scare off most sane individuals.
Just try to relax. Things will work themselves out one way or the other. So there’s no sense in putting any unnecessary pressure on yourself.
Online dating? Think about what your ideal significant other is searching for. Don’t listen to what your friends tell you: There’s no longer a stigma attached to finding someone online before buying that person a drink.
After you’ve decided to give it a whirl, consider this: Rather than thinking about your digital profile as something that lists everything you’re proud of, consider what your ideal mate might be looking for.
Online dating is a numbers game. As such, algorithms will determine who you meet. It’s important to realize that you control the data that you give dating sites. So you can use your brain to figure out what you hope your future significant other might be most interested in, thereby “hacking” dating sites.
There’s a reason things cost money. Not finding love on OkCupid or Plenty of Fish? If you want to win in the virtual dating world, it might be time to consider opening your wallet.
Think about it: Who’s the sexier mate? The one driving the clunker or the one driving the Ferrari Sergio?
Pay sites cost money for one reason: They work.
If you’re looking for serious online dating, spend the money. You’re almost guaranteed to get more responses on pay sites. If people are spending money on something, they’ll use it.
Unfortunately, there’s no approach that’s exactly right for dating. Sparks will fly where they may.
While you can never guarantee that a date will be successful, you can put yourself in a position to make sure you start out on the best foot possible.